Good conversationalists are more successful in dating, because we enjoying talking to them. No one is born to be a conversationalist. Conversation is an art and anybody can learn and master. The key to create a good conversation is to get outside of yourself and be aware of other people, i.e. who they are, what they care about, what interests them, what they enjoy. It'll make you more attractive if you focus more on showing interest in the person you're out with, as opposed to talking only about yourself. Here are some suggestions for you to learn to be a conversationalist:

Do Some Homework Before the Date

If it's your first time to talk to your date, prepare some interesting topics, for example, funny stories or some thoughts on current events or pop culture. If you've spoken with the person before, follow up on something from the previous conversation. Also, prepare some questions and thoughts based on what you know about your date. Read about your date's hobbies or job, so you can ask good questions that help them open up. This will show your interest.

Ask Good Questions

Ask good initial questions that give your date a chance to talk about what they care about and follow them up with questions that draw out your date more. Try to ask questions that let your date answer in details in his or her own words. For example, open-ended questions like "what types of food do you like" are more appropriate from discussions than "yes/no" questions like "do you like sushi". But too open-ended, like "what have you been doing", lack enough social contexts and won't produce quality dialogue. What's most important is that your questions generate a ping-pong effect and let a comfortable back-and-forth communication between you and your date.

Be Willing to Share

A good conversationalist knows any good conversation should be a give and take, an exchange of information between the parties. So, while you're working hard to show interest in your date, don't forget to share yourself along the way. It's not much fun to spend an hour or two with someone who only asks questions like an interrogator. You need to fulfill your own conversational responsibilities. Try to give some details if your date happens to drop a "yes/no" question. For example, if your date asks, "Do you have a favorite type of music?" describe your favorite music rather than just responding with the one-liner "yes".

Pay Attention to Non-verbal Cues

A conversationalist never forgets the importance of the nonverbal cues during a conversation. So, pay attention to your body language - could your slouch communicate that you're bored, or could your crossed arms say that you don't agree with what your date said?

Don't be distracted by other people in the room, by your phone, or by the football game on the TV in the bar. Instead, focus on the date with your eyes, lean in toward him or her a little (just a little, not too much), and smile. Do your best to tune in to what your date is saying. Don't let your mind wander, and don't plan ahead how you're going to respond. Just focus on the other person in the moment. That's the kind of person everybody is going to feel attracted to.

Relax and Don't try too Hard

On a date, the most important thing is to be yourself, while trying to show who you are and get to know the other person. So, do your best to relax and enjoy yourself. You don't need to laugh too hard at every joke or fill every nanosecond with words. Once you prepared yourself on the above mentioned principles, just focus on having fun.